My husband bought his brother a car with our savings… and told me, "That’s my money"!
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My husband and I have been married for four years, and from the start of our marriage we’ve been saving so we can apply for a bigger apartment. I pay a fixed portion of my salary every month, he puts in the larger share, and we never separated the savings on paper into what’s mine and what’s his. A week ago I found out a large amount was missing from the account. When I asked him, he said he’d bought a used car for his brother so he could get a job after losing his work. I appreciate that his brother needs help, but that money would have allowed us to apply for the apartment next month. My husband says, “I put in three quarters of the money, and that’s my brother — I won’t leave him in a crisis.” I replied that we plan our life based on joint decisions, even if our contributions are different. Question: whose position is closer to being right? For discussion: does whoever pays more in the household get a louder voice in financial decisions?
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